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7 Proven Ways to Attract True Love

Almost everyone is looking for true love.  They’re looking for that special someone that will enhance their lives.  Some people search all their lives for it.  Some find it and others don’t.

So what is the secret to finding true love? 

Why are some people successful and others not? 


From my personal experience, I have fallen in love a total of 4 times. But attracting true love is not necessarily easy if you're not doing things right from the start.

Unfortunately, some of those relationships never lasted for one reason or another.  Sometimes I feel like I'm the Jerry Seinfeld and George Castanza of life.  Believe you me, I've used the "It's not you, It's me" line numerous times.

From my relationship experiences I've discovered 7 critical things that are super important that you need to do to attract true love into your life.  So without making this post about me, lets see what we need to do to attract true love into our lives.  Discover below the 7 things you need to do to attract true love.

1. You Have to Love Yourself First

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If you don’t love yourself first, how can you expect to find someone who will? You need to love yourself first before you can share your love with others. You need to be an emotionally healthy person and have an intrinsic self-worth of yourself.

When you love yourself it shows. It shines right through you. It shows through your high self-esteem, brimming self-confidence and the strong belief in yourself.  It shows by eating healthy, exercising and taking care of yourself.

In order to love yourself you need to accept yourself, flaws and everything. After all no one is perfect.  If you can’t accept yourself for the person that you are, how will your potential true love be able to?

When you love yourself, you find yourself happy and comfortable in your own skin.  You feel attractive and your insecurities will melt away.  When you love yourself first others will be attracted to you and you will find the true love that you’re looking for.

2. You Need to Create a Life You Love

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The best way to create a life that you love is to become the best version of yourself on every level.   This means that you are constantly learning, improving and evolving as a person.  It means that family and friends are important to you.

It means that you have your own hobbies, interests and activities.  It means you have your own friends and have developed strong relationships with others.

When you live by your values, ideals and work towards your goals you are living a life that you love.  Having a purpose in life and loving what you do for work is a tell tale sign that you have a life that you love.

When you create a life that you love, others will be attracted to you because of who you are and will want to be a part off and share their life with you.  So be happy with your life and love your life.

3. You Have to Be a Giver, Not a Taker

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When you give not expecting anything in return, you will receive back ten-fold.  When you’re a taker, the world takes away from you.

People are naturally attracted to givers not takers.  So have a generous, giving heart.  Be sincere, genuine, loving, thoughtful, helpful, considerate, compassionate and empathetic.  Treat others the way you want to be treated.  Follow the Golden Rule. Do unto others ...

Don’t be a taker.  Don’t be manipulative, selfish, self-centered, needy and always on the receiving end with your hand held out all the time.

It’s better to give than to receive.  Being in a relationship, treat others the way you want to be treated and sharing love is what it’s all about. By giving and sharing is how you attract true love.

4. You Have to Learn to Be Happy BEFORE you Enter Into a Relationship

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Your true happiness will attract others who are also happy which opens the door to a happy, loving relationship.   You shouldn’t be looking for a relationship with someone else to make you happy, it’s a sure recipe for failure.

Figure out how to be happy.  It’s easier than you think.  Happiness is a mindset, an outlook on life.  It could be one or a combination of things missing from your life.   You may need to self-reflect over one or more of the following things that can impact your happiness in life:

  • Your Attitude
  • Being optimistic
  • Expressing gratitude
  • Practicing forgiveness
  • Focusing on your goals
  • Pursuing your life's purpose
  • Doing what you love for work
  • Prioritizing people and relationships over possessions
  • Surrounding yourself with positive people
  • Eating healthy
  • Exercising daily
  • Meditating nightly
  • Laughing more
  • Being proactive
  • Taking control of your life
  • Living your life by design

5. You Need to Eliminate All Negative Emotions from Your Life

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There’s no place for negative, destructive emotions in a loving relationship.  Love is about being positive, giving, generous, thoughtful and considerate.  Negative emotions cause division, frustration, anger, mistrust, blaming, finger pointing, accusations, hopelessness, hurt and despair.   

Work on eliminating negative emotions from your life, like guilt, anger, fear, jealousy, envy and hate.  Give up grudges and learn to forgive.  Don’t let negativity and insecurity hold you back and drag you down.  Negativity is like poison, it just spreads, destroys and kills everything in it’s path.

When your heart is filled with only positive emotions like love, giving, thoughtfulness and consideration you will be begin to attract others like yourself, increasing your chances of attracting true love.

6. You Have to Believe in Finding the Right Person Who is Meant for You

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If you’re looking for someone perfect, you’re not going to find them.  They just don’t exist. But at the same time, don’t just settle.

Some people have unusually high expectations and just don’t understand what they’re looking for cannot be found.  Realism is important when looking for a partner and attaining true love.  Life is not a fairytale.

Figure out the type of person you want in your life who will complement your life.  Have realistic expectations of them.  Get to know them preferably for a minimum of one to two years and it’ll help you determine if it’s true love that will have staying power for the rest of your lives.

It’s imperitive that you be trust-worthy best friends.  Someone who accepts you for who you are and you them because being mutually validated and approved off will only enhance the happiness in your lives.

Ensure it’s someone who always watches out for you and you them. Someone who is there for you through thick and thin,in good times and in bad.  Someone who truly cares about you and supports and respects your feelings, opinions, dreams and goals.

Everyone has faults and negatives about them.  The key is to find someone who’s strengths and positive qualities outweigh their negative qualities. Make sure you also share the same values.

7. You Need to Put Yourself Out There

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It’s completely unrealistic to find your true love by not working at it.  As with everything in life you need to put some effort into it.  Never close off opportunities to meet new people.

As in sales, it’s a numbers game.  You have to meet enough potential partners in order to find your true love.  You have to get out there and meet people.  There are numerous ways to meet people including social gatherings, interest groups, Meet up groups, online dating, volunteering at non-profit events, networking events etc.

When you meet people you like, show a sincere and genuine interest by finding out more about them.  Build a relationship, make a connection and follow up with them.  When you are pro-actively open to meeting potential partners, this increases your chances of finding true love and the right person for you.

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What has your experience being attracting true love?

Do you need to work on any of the 7 ways mentioned above?  Which ones? 

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