On October 6, 2018 at 8:15 am for about 40 minutes Twitter user, author A. R Moxon AKA Julius Ghost inspired by the Kavanaugh hearings, in a series of viral tweets used a really brutal analogy to inform and educate men on how women face being sexually harassed, the way our paternalistic society treats them and their resulting justifiable anger and rage towards men.
Hi, guys. Imagine if one day you got kicked in the nuts, really hard, on purpose.
You doubled over. Felt the pain. Nearly passed out. Nearly puked.
Then you got kicked again. And again.
Imagine it happened to you when you were 12.
Imagine it was an 38 year old woman who did it.
Imagine it was your mother’s friend and business partner.
Imagine you told your parents and they didn’t believe you.
Imagine they never mentioned it again.
You learned to keep quiet about it.
You learned to be scared.
Imagine that later your father explained that women just wanted to kick men in the nuts, so as a boy you had to be careful.
Imagine he had very detailed practical advice on this.
Imagine you started spending your life planning on avoiding being kicked in the nuts.
Imagine you became aware that women, including much older women—even elderly women—were always looking at your nuts. Women on the street would follow you. They’d tell you what a nice package you have. They’d tell you you’d be hot if you just showed off your nuts a little more.
Imagine you started wearing clothes to hide them. You bought uncomfortable protective gear.
All the posters and advertisements in all the magazines featured men’s crotches, though frequently not their heads.
Women’s feet were frequently featured in prominent juxtaposition.
Imagine most of your friends all told you about getting kicked in the nuts.
Imagine none of them had ever told anybody else.
Imagine all the older girls at school would make jokes about kicking you in the nuts.
Imagine all the laughter. The jokes are all so funny.
Imagine you went to church and were told that God made girls to want your body, so you should protect your nuts at all costs.
Imagine the minister said it was your responsibility as a maturing boy not to do anything that would make girls think about kicking you in the nuts.
Imagine you found a girlfriend, and you loved each other.
One night, you were fooling around and she kicked you as hard as she could in the nuts, and it all came rushing back.
Imagine she acted like obviously you wanted to be kicked in the nuts, mocked you for getting emotional.
Imagine you told the police, and they asked you what you’d been wearing before she kicked you in the nuts. Asked if you’d had a drink. Asked what you might have been doing before. Had you been naked? Kissing?
Imagine there were laws that said that if a wife kicked her husband in the nuts it wasn’t assault.
Imagine you heard about men with ruptured testicles who had to pay for their own forensic reports
Imagine you saw statistics showing only 1% of kickings resulted in conviction.
Imagine a girl was caught kicking a boy repeatedly in the nuts while he was passed out drunk.
Imagine the judge let her off, because she was worried about the damage to the girl’s future prospects. She was a star swimmer with a scholarship.
Imagine this happened all the time.
Imagine if one day men all started talking about how almost all of them had, at one point or another, been kicked in the nuts.
Imagine if women’s main concern was what false accusation might do to their reputations, and whether this new honesty might ruin the mystery of sex.
Imagine a woman ran for President.
Imagine audio came out of her bragging about making it a regular practice to kick men in the nuts without even introducing herself.
Imagine she lost no support for this.
Imagine she claimed the men accusing her were lying.
Imagine she said they were too ugly to kick.
Imagine there had never been a male president.
Imagine she ran against the first major-party male candidate.
Imagine he had experience, and she had none.
Imagine she won anyway.
Imagine she supported a Senate candidate known for kicking young boys in the testicles.
Imagine she nominated a judge.
Imagine the judge was accused of kicking a boy in the nuts.
Imagine the accuser had to hide from all the death threats as a result.
Imagine the man who had been kicked testified, providing sworn testimony.
Imagine the judge gave an vindictive rant in response.
Imagine he was derided for providing no evidence.
Imagine if they looked for no evidence.
Imagine the judge was given an op-ed to explain herself.
Imagine the President mocked the accuser in font of a crowd, and the crowd laughed and clapped.
Imagine the judge was confirmed.
Imagine the deciding vote was a man.
Can you imagine?
Now imagine that being kicked in the nuts might result in you having to create, in your body, a genetic replication of the person who kicked you.
And imagine that the judge intended to make sure you’d have to carry it.
Imagine that was the *reason* she was chosen.
I can't imagine women's rage today, but this exercise, while abstract, helped me get nearer to it than I'd been.
Be kind to women, guys. Today and every day.
If you see somebody being cruel to women, or abusive, or violent?
Kick 'em in the nuts.
By the way it's 100% insane that this issue seems to require an analogy to draw a sharper focus on how wrong our society presently is, but here were are.
Some of the better Twitter responses:
You are brilliant. A million hugs for getting it. A million hugs for decoding it for dummies. A million hugs for caring.— Natasha Hemrajani (@radiantbear) October 9, 2018
Thank you.. this brought me to tears, it's exactly how it feels— Lizz Reese (@JustAskLizz) October 10, 2018
I can't breathe. This is beautiful.— DoctorLestrange (@Kavyarawat) October 8, 2018
This is a really good exercise in empathy you went through - maybe, just maybe, some guys might finally get it. Thank you.— Terry Newberg (@SoOverThem) October 7, 2018
I hope everyone gets to read this, You are spot on, Thank you— me (@claire_eales) October 12, 2018
This is genius. I’m spluttering with laughter through the entire thread but that’s probably because I don’t have any nuts.— Wobbles (@yvonnert) October 9, 2018
This is amazing and it should be required that all men read it!— Beautiful Chaos (@Lorrigrl) October 10, 2018
I DID kick a boy in the nuts in 5th grade, because he wouldn’t leave me alone. Off of school grounds. He told our teacher the next day, and I got into trouble. When I explained why, I was told,it was just because the boy liked me. No, no he didn’t.— Margaret (@MargaretJCR) October 9, 2018
I kicked a boy in the nuts when I was 9 for groping my friend repeatedly. He blocked it with his hand and cried when I 'nearly broke' his wrist. The teacher told me off but when I said why she left it at that. She sort of let me off but he didn't get in trouble for the groping.— Sarah Khan-Varda (@SarahVarda) October 10, 2018
I was a nut kicker in 4th grade.— dezzarray (@dezzarray) October 11, 2018
But then again, that's what I did if boys wouldn't leave me alone.
I'm shocked I didn't get in trouble more.
Imagine, there was a female president called Billary C.— McW0lf (@McW0lf) October 10, 2018
She kicked younger man in the nuts on a regular basis.
In Hotels, in the Oval Office, even when she was president.
The men came out, but instead of believing them, the public mocked and discredit them...
Imagine you were kicked in the nuts and you had to get 'evidence' for the kicking.— Stephanie Zhou, MD, MSc (@stephanieyzhou) October 11, 2018
You go to the hospital and you have to show your nuts to the doctor who will take swabs.
Imagine if getting kicked in the nuts leads to you getting a disease for the rest of your life.
And when it’s all said and done.. imagine that you still have to go to work, cook dinner, take care of the kids and get through ALL of it again the next day.. 😳— Insert corny name (@23spitfire) October 11, 2018
Imagine you knew that any woman, regardless of age or status, at any time of the day or night, whether they knew you or not, could potentially deliver a swift kick to your nuts. How fretful would you be? How many changes would you make to your routine? Fab analogy. Thanks😊.— Tina Harrigan-James (@THarriganJames) October 10, 2018
Imagine that the act of men's nuts being touched in any way was seen as so precious that it was the undercurrent in 80% of every movie plot. Poetry was written about it. Songs were sung. It was prescribed by religions that only your wife was allowed to do so.— C.P. Young (@CPYoung2) October 10, 2018
What if, in most cultures, having un-kicked nuts was the greatest sign of virtue and your future prospects at love were now greatly reduced?— Leanne (@raveandreview) October 10, 2018
Great thread (you've done it again). It shouldn't take an analogy for men to feel empathy, still what's totally powerful here is that even seeing or just thinking about getting kicked creates a visceral reaction in every man I've ever known.— David Weisberger (@DavidWeisberger) October 9, 2018
You have no clue. This is not a fair or accurate comparison. Nice try. Failed.— Jeanne (@1daysofsummer) October 10, 2018
I don't think this analogy is quite right. I think the woman should not kick them, but do them anally. I know that's pretty graphic, but as a survivor, I would say that's more what it feels like. Kicking is just pain. A sex act in their butt shows the shame, horror, fear & more.— Greta Weiner (@WattupG) October 10, 2018
This wins the internet! 🏆— UCFierce 21-0 Knights Alum '92 (@MrsRainbowZebra) October 10, 2018
Thank you. I read this to my husband (he's one of the good guys). And even though he knows about my #metoo trauma, it's hard for him to understand just what our daughter and I go through as women, every day.
Wasn't expecting to cry this evening, but this hit the spot.— Susannah Clay (@SaffyClay) October 11, 2018
Good to know there's some men fighting for what's right.
Thanks for putting this analogy out there. It’s astonishing that people (even other women) don’t get it. Thanks for being a guy who tries to understand.— Kathy DiFrancesco (@Azraryze) October 9, 2018
Thank you, sums it up brilliantly, it's such a shame it still needs spelling out. A sign of the times, unfortunately.— John Preston (@Prozium_Dealer) October 11, 2018
Never thought i would see the day whereby misogynists & abusers claim the role of the victim.
What will you do if you see somebody being cruel to women or abusive or violent?
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