We’re all guilty of making mistakes in life. After all we’re only human. These are life’s lessons we all have to go through. The way to learn and grow as a person is to make our own mistakes, learn from them and hopefully ensure we don’t repeat them again. When we make mistakes ...
When we make mistakes, big or small, we experience setbacks. These setbacks slow us down and impede our progress in getting us to where we want to be and what we want to achieve. When we learn from our own mistakes it’s a learning, growing experience.
But wouldn’t you want to learn life’s lessons from other people’s mistakes? Saving you all the time and energy of not having to go through that process?
Wouldn’t you rather achieve more and reach your goals faster?
I know I sure would. I have been guilty of some of these life mistakes at some point in my life and even some of them to this day, which I’m still working on. I’m not proud of it. But it’s the truth. I’m not perfect.
For some of these, I really wish I had fully realized them and worked harder on them a lot earlier in life. Like most people, I’m a constant work in progress. I don’t claim to know it all.
All I can do is to continue to work at it one day at a time and share my experiences and ideas with you so you can save yourself from spinning your wheels unnecessarily.
Here are 21 biggest life mistakes to learn from and avoid. They will save you a lot of time and headache.
When you think negatively, it permeates throughout your entire body and you don’t feel good about yourself. You get stressed, you worry and you lose hope. You don’t feel you can accomplish anything and succeed in life. You just put yourself in a negative downward spiral.
So, eliminate negative thoughts from your mind. Think positive. You’ll feel really good about yourself, feel much better and be happier. You’ll feel like you can accomplish almost anything. It will help to unleash your creativity, your passions, your interests and help you reach your goals.
By not being true to yourself, you compromise your principles, your core values and your personal value system. Sacrificing this, leads to not living a life of integrity. When you do this a small little part of you dies along the way.
Never use excuses, rationalize things and take the easy way out in difficult times. Always stick and stand steadfastly by your principles, values and beliefs. Do the right thing when it counts the most. Resist temptation to take the easy way out. You’ll be better off for it in the long run. Live a life you can look back on with no regrets, so you can enjoy it all over again.
These days, too much time is wasted on numerous, life sucking, unworthy pursuits. They can be as small as spending endless hours watching TV, being addicted to playing video games and constantly being on social media to bigger stuff like defacing property by drawing graffiti, engaging in vandalism, gambling, getting inebriated and participating in scams and the next get rich quick scheme.
Respect and value yourself and your time. Use your time constructively to better yourself and society. Make every minute you have count and stand for something. Do something meaningful, purposeful, constructive and worthwhile with your time. Spend your time wisely and productively for the betterment of all. Contribute and add genuine value to society. Make the world a better place.
When you don’t give thanks for all that you have in your life you don’t appreciate the abundance and all the important things you have in your life. You will be unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled with your life. It’s like there’s something missing, a feeling of emptiness, a hole in your life.
By practicing gratitude on a daily basis, you see your life in a whole different perspective. Because you count your blessings you become happier and more appreciative. You see how rich your life really is and how well off you are. Your happiness quotient increases tremendously and you will love your life more.
When you don’t forgive others you have more conflict in your life and less inner peace. Holding grudges against others just increases the negative energy in your life. This negative energy slows you down, holds you back and sours your mood and disposition.
When you forgive others, you’re not only doing it for them but more importantly you’re doing it for yourself. You end up being a more positive, loving, peaceful, creative person which allows you to achieve more, faster.
It’s very easy to develop bad habits. They come from laziness, procrastination, taking short cuts and just doing what comes easy and that you enjoy instead of being disciplined and doing the important things that need to get done.
To improve your life, track your bad habits, break them and replace them with good habits. The best and easiest way to accomplish this is to focus on the new, good habits that you want to develop. As you develop them, they will leave less and less room for the bad habits in your life.
When you ignore our health it leads to obesity and a host of other medical problems like stress, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol etc. What you put into your body and taking daily care of your body is important for a healthy life.
There's an old saying, when you have good health you have everything in life. It makes so much sense because all of the money in the world cannot buy you good health. So put more balance in your life and give up an unhealthy lifestyle by eating better, exercising daily and playing more.
When you don’t constantly strive on a daily basis to improve yourself as a person, you stop growing and learning. You stagnate and remain stuck at the same level not achieving and reaching your full potential.
It’s important to be conscious and aware that you are always trying to be the best you that you can be. So make a decision and a commitment to give it your all. Make tiny, daily improvements in your life, each and every day.
With time, all of these tiny, daily improvements add up to being huge, massive improvements which will change your life dramatically for the better. Doing this sets a good example for others and will make you a role model for others to look up to, admire, respect, speak well off and remember you long after you’re gone.
When you stop increasing your knowledge and learning new skills you stop growing as a person and limit yourself from reaching your full potential. So have a plan and devote some time every week to improve upon your skills and knowledge.
With the numerous free learning resources available on the internet there’s no excuse not do it. If what you require is unavailable for free, then budget some funds to invest in yourself. It’ll be the best money you ever spent.
We’re all guilty at times of saying things to others that we don’t really mean. In the heat of the moment and in anger we just sometimes don’t think or can’t really control our emotions and we just release and dump on others.
In instances like these we need to take a step back, calm down, think for a second or two, not get caught up in the moment and "bite our tongues". This way we will have no regrets later on and because we didn’t let our emotions get the better of us we know that we handled the situation in the right way.
When you live your life in the past you sometimes live a life of regret. You tend to think in terms of “I should have done that.” And you think that your life would be better now only if you had done that. The only problem with this is you can’t change the past and bring it to the present.
Don’t waste your time thinking and living in the past. It’s futile and will only take an emotional toll on you. Your only real, practical choice is to live your life in the present which you have complete control over and take it in any direction you want to. When you live in the present you are truly living life.
When you play it too safe in life and settle in a comfortable lifestyle you risk missing out on some great opportunities that may not come around again. And what’s worse than saying later on when it’s too late, “If I only had done …” or “I wish I had taken advantage of …”. Remember the old adage, “No risk, no reward.”
Most people start off their working life with the intent of doing something they enjoy or even do what they love. But sometimes things don’t always go as we planned, life throws a curve at us and we get diverted and side tracked.
In times like these life takes over and in order to pay the bills we end up working at jobs that aren’t what we really want to do. We end up not being truly happy and fulfilled. We end up muddling through life.
Get your life back on track. Find a way to do what you love and work at your dream job. After all, you spend so much of your time working in life, you might as well truly enjoy it.
Having a plan, a game plan is extremely important in life. Be it a time specific short term daily, weekly or monthly plan, a medium term plan of 1 year, 3 years, 5 years or a longer term plan of 10 years, 25 years or 50 years. All of these timelines are important for you to achieve what‘s important to you and all that you want to achieve in life.
A plan guides you, helps chart your course and keeps you on track. It helps you to focus and pursue your goals. However, you must also be flexible enough to tweak, alter and even possibly change your plan as unexpected things come up in life. And don't forget to always have a secondary back up plan for when things don’t go as initially planned.
There’s an old saying that the person you marry will determine 90% of your happiness or misery. When you think about it, it makes so much sense and is true. Just look around you and observe the happy and not so happy relationships out there. Make sure you know your prospective life partner a minimum of 1 – 2 years before committing to the relationship.
Ensure you know their character and the both of you share similar values because when times get tough in any relationship this is where it will matter the most. If you don’t do this right, you could end up paying a real heavy price for a very long time. Better to be forewarned than to have serious regrets after it’s too late.
In our fast paced world where we focus on our careers, climbing the corporate ladder and getting ahead in life, we tend to forget about the truly important things in life. Work tends to come first and everything else becomes secondary, including family life. We need to slow down, reflect and truly prioritize what is important to us in life.
Family and the people closest to you should not take a back seat to work. So, turn off your work phone and email before and after work hours. Instead of working late, eat supper together with your family every evening. Spend time together and participate in family activities with your spouse and children.
Material objects only provide short term, fleeting happiness. Then their novelty wears off. If you go that route you will be riding a never ending treadmill and will always be looking to acquire the next shiny, attractive object in your search for happiness.
The problem is that the happiness that is derived from toys and gadgets is not true happiness. To experience true long lasting happiness, prioritize people, your relationships and experiences over materialistic objects. So get of the treadmill and experience true lasting happiness in your life. You deserve it.
Working at a job you hate for 8 hours or more a day 5 days a week can really take a toll on you. It can be mentally & emotionally exhausting and can deteriorate your health. You don’t feel good about yourself. In fact, you feel downright lousy most of the time.
When you work at something you love it literally doesn’t feel like work. You will have the desire, energy and focus to excel at what you do and enjoy not only your work but also your life. So find a job that you enjoy and look forward to doing everyday. It will make you feel better mentally and emotionally and your physical health will also benefit by it.
There’s nothing worse than going in to work every day and being in a toxic environment. More often than not, toxicity starts at the top and trickles down. Before you know it you’re surrounded by toxic management, toxic company policies, toxic bosses, toxic co-workers, toxic personalities, toxic thinking and toxic mentalities. You may not realize it at first but if you let it get to you, it just slowly drains your soul and zaps your very spirit.
If you’re working in a toxic environment, develop an exit strategy and find a better job ASAP to get out of there as fast as possible. No amount of job safety, job security and pay check is worth putting up with working in a toxic environment.
When were young and starting out in life, in our 20’s and 30’s we think we have lots of time to save for our future. So instead of saving and investing we tend to spend and enjoy our lives. Only when we reach our 40’s and 50’s do we realize how little time left we have to save and invest.
Start saving and investing early on in life and make it a habit. Use the power of time and compounding interest to work in your favor to grow your nest egg for when you grow older and retire. You’ll be glad you did.
Sometimes in life we get sidetracked and overwhelmed by whatever is happening at the time. We can stray off the beaten path and lose our way in life. This is where we end up losing out on our main objectives and goals.
Every so often we need to gather ourselves up back together, recoup, clear our minds, review, re-assess, re-focus and look past this, towards our big prize in life. These periodic checks are necessary and are needed to ensure we stay on track and on the right path to accomplishing and achieving our goals and dreams in life.
The world is full of lazy people looking for short cuts and the easy way out. People are always looking to make a quick fast buck without putting in the time, effort and working for it. Don’t be one of those people.
In whatever you do, always give your best effort, keep trying and never give up. Work smart, hard and have a strong work ethic. Give it your all. It’s the effort you put into anything that will differentiate you from others. Effort, trying, persistence and determination builds inner strength, resilience and stick-to-it-iveness. This is what will help you move ahead in life over most others.
Always believe in yourself. Believe in your skills, abilities, talents, strengths, knowledge and experience. When you have confidence and believe in yourself and have faith in what you can do and accomplish you will surprise yourself.
Also, have faith in God or whatever higher power you believe in. It's so important to believe in something greater than ourselves. Our faith gives us strength and hope. When you think positive, have faith, strength and hope on your side you will be summoning all of the powers of the universe on your side to help you along in life.
At one time or another we all need help in life. It’s admirable to be independent but it’s impossible to go through life doing everything by yourself, all alone. At times, we all need help and support through life, whether it’s from our parents, siblings, husbands, wives, friends or business acquaintances/partners.
It’s important to recognize and understand this early in life. It’s important to understand that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Life is give and take. Sometimes we need help and at other times, others will need a helping hand. It all evens out in the end. So be smart. Build your support network, be it family, personal community, business contacts or a combination of all. It’ll be the best thing you ever do.
We all have faults, weaknesses and imperfections. We are not perfect. We need to accept and embrace our imperfections as a part of who we are. We must feel good about ourselves. We all need to have a high level of self-esteem, self-confidence and accept and love ourselves unconditionally for who we are.
When we do this we will be at peace with ourselves. We will be also more accepting of others and be able to give more of ourselves to others. If not, we’ll end up going through life with a chip on our shoulders, have nagging thoughts and self doubts about ourselves in the back of our minds. We will never be truly happy in life.
Which of the aforementioned life mistakes are you guilty off?
How has it affected your life?
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